“Princeton University psychologist Susan Fiske took brain scans of heterosexual men while they looked at sexualised images of women wearing bikinis. She found that the part of their brains that became activated was pre-motor - areas that usually light up when people anticipate using tools. The men were reacting to the images as if the women were objects they were going to act on. Particularly shocking was the discovery that the participants who scored highest on tests of hostile sexism were those most likely to deactivate the part of the brain that considers other people’s intentions (the medial prefrontal cortex) while looking at the pictures. These men were responding to images of the women as if they were non-human.”
The Equality Illusion (via lesilencieux)
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2:13 pm • 7 December 2013 • 54,808 notes
all women were bigger and stronger than you
and thought they were smarter
women were the ones who started wars
too many of your friends had been raped by women wielding giant dildos
and no K-Y Jelly
the state trooper
who pulled you over on the New Jersey Turnpike
was a woman
and carried a gun
the ability to menstruate
was the prerequisite for most high-paying jobs
your attractiveness to women depended
on the size of your penis
every time women saw you
they’d hoot and make jerking motions with their hands
women were always making jokes
about how ugly penises are
and how bad sperm tastes
you had to explain what’s wrong with your car
to big sweaty women with greasy hands
who stared at your crotch
in a garage where you are surrounded
by posters of naked men with hard-ons
men’s magazines featured cover photos
of 14-year-old boys
tucked into the front of their jeans
and articles like:
“How to tell if your wife is unfaithful”
“What your doctor won’t tell you about your prostate”
“The truth about impotence”
the doctor who examined your prostate
was a woman
and called you “Honey”
you had to inhale your boss’s stale cigar breath
as she insisted that sleeping with her
was part of the job
you couldn’t get away because
the company dress code required
you wear shoes
designed to keep you from running
And what if
after all that
women still wanted you
to love them.
For the Men Who Still Don’t Get It, written 20 years ago by Carol Diehl.
She wrote a post about the history of this poem that is worth reading.
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9:37 am • 30 November 2013 • 116,572 notes
Your first time is NOT supposed to hurt
You are NOT supposed to bleed
If you bleed, that is NOT your hymen being ‘popped’, it is a tear due to lack of sexual arousal and natural lubrication.
This is all a MYTH perpetrated by men so they don’t have to make sure you are comfortable and sufficiently aroused enough before you have sex with them. It is an excuse to disregard and hurt you.
I just really want women to know this.
5:38 pm • 24 October 2013 • 171,633 notes
“By comparing the relative lengths of certain fingers, [Penn State archaeologist Dean] Snow determined that three-quarters of the handprints were female. “There has been a male bias in the literature for a long time,” said Snow… . “People have made a lot of unwarranted assumptions about who made these things, and why.”
— Archeologists find that humanity’s first artists were female. Complement with 100 ideas that changed art and an illustrated celebration of women artists who changed culture. (via explore-blog)
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2:15 pm • 14 October 2013 • 2,896 notes
regardless of “they” as a singular pronoun being gramatically correct or not, it’s troubling that you value grammar over someone’s comfort in pronouns and identity
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11:10 pm • 7 September 2013 • 15,828 notes
It has become obvious to me that most men don’t realize that virtually every woman on the planet thinks about rape and avoiding rape regularly…by the time we are fully engaged in the world, at school, going to work, shopping for food—you know, living—we have already made our own personal adaptations to the reality of the threat.
For example, we choose our commute options carefully to avoid being alone in certain places, we park closer to entrances than men might, we don’t exercise outside as much, we limit our daughter’s physical freedoms earlier than they or we want to, we develop instincts about the level of threat implied in street harassment, and we learn to weaponize everyday objects, like keys.
In 2012, Gallup released the results of a survey, conducted in 143 countries, in which they asked respondents if they felt safe walking in their communities at night. In the United States, 89% of men answered “yes,” while only 62% of women did the same. This surprisingly large difference was consistent across developed nations. Australia, France, Finland, and Sweden have almost identical gaps. The United Kingdom and Germany hover at roughly 20%. In Arab countries, the gap averages 14%. Researchers concluded, “Violence against women remains a problem in many developed countries, and the perpetrators often go unpunished.” The fact that the gap is largest in developed nations says a lot about the nature of sexism and the superficiality of equality.
This isn’t just a matter of perception. A woman’s chance of being sexually assaulted is 1 in 5, for men it’s 1 in 77, and assaults with male victims primarily take place when they are young, whereas for women there is no age-related end.
We all assess risk and, when your risk of being sexually assaulted is 1 in 5, you make rational decisions about your safety. These actions are small and invisible. And, we rarely talk about this and the cost of our adaptations—in time, in travel, in money, in suppression of speech, in psychic energy.
We have to talk about this. So I do. And, when I do, a strange thing often happens: Men are filled with disbelief. They are often surprised and argumentative.
— Soraya Chemaly (x)
4:08 pm • 5 September 2013
“Girls’ sexuality is so much the focus of our ire. Women who have sex are dirty. Men who have sex are men. Girls who dress to be ogled are hoes. Men who ogle are just doing what comes naturally. This is the kind of reinforced behavior that makes it perfectly acceptable to legislate a woman’s access to birth control and reproductive health care without engaging in balanced conversations about covering Viagra and vasectomies.”
— Shelli Latham
3:59 pm • 5 September 2013