TRIGGER WARNING: What Is It About Our Artists and Very Young Girls?
Our cultural canon is built on the backs of young girls.
You can’t read about any artistic history or movement — from punk rock to 18th century poetry — without reading about someone’s teenage mistress or girlfriend. Men with big egos and senses of entitlement combined with a lack of boundaries have always chewed up and swallowed emotionally immature young girls.
Off the top of my head alone: Edgar Allan Poe married his 13-year-old cousin, as did Jerry Lee Lewis. Elvis Presley was obsessed with 14-year-old girls (like his would-be wife Priscilla, who was 14 when he met her) and lost interest in his sexual partners once they were no longer virgins.
has admitted to a fondness for underage girls, and at one point became 17-year-old girlfriend Pele Massa’s
legal guardian to avoid hassle. Marvin Gaye
was 33 when he started dating 16-year-old Janis Hunter. The Eagles’ Don Henley
was arrested when police found a drugged, naked 16-year-old girl at his house. Salinger dated teenage girls
allegedly slept with Sable Starr when she was only 13, then wrote the song “Look Away” about her. Starr went on to have relationships with Johnny Thunders
of the New York Dolls and Richard Hell
, all before turning 17. Chuck Berry
went to jail for transporting an underage girl across state lines, and allegedly appeared in in a video urinating on a young girl in a hotel bathtub. Rob Lowe made a sex tape
with a 16-year-old girl.
plead guilty to unlawful sexual intercourse with a 13-year-old girl, then fled to France to escape imprisonment. Cher was 16 when she met 27-year-old Sonny Bono
. Jimmy Page
had a relationship with Lori Maddox,
a 14-year-old groupie he proceeded to keep behind closed doors for years to avoid legal trouble. She was linked to David Bowie
a year earlier.
left his wife for an 18-year-old and then publicly slandered his betrayed wife in the newspaper. Fifty-one-year-old Doug Hutchinson
married 16-year-old Courtney Stodden. Bill Wyman
, the Rolling Stones’ bassist, infamously “dated” 13-year-old Mandy Smith. Mackenzie Phillips’musician dad first raped her
when she was 17 or 18.
The above are not only just the ones that come to mind quickly, they’re just the ones who got caught. Our cultural canon is built on the backs of young girls.
Calling out the names. Fuck this shit. STOP THIS SHIT.
9:20 am • 16 March 2014 • 2,588 notes
I don’t know if rape jokes encourage rape culture. I don’t care. You still shouldn’t tell them.
Statistically, if you have told a rape joke to a group of more than five people, one of the people you told it to was a rape survivor, possibly of multiple rapes. They will not necessarily disclose this to you; rape apologism is endemic in society and most rape survivors are cautious about whom they tell. Some may even be too ashamed of their rape to admit it to anyone, or because of rape-minimizing narratives like “men can’t be raped” and “I consented to oral, so I couldn’t have been raped” may not admit it even to themselves. The fact remains: if you’ve told dozens of rape jokes in your life, then you have almost certainly told a joke that minimizes or trivializes rape in front of a survivor.
And if you put as your Facebook status “I totally raped at Halo today” for your two hundred Facebook friends to see, statistically, you have just reminded thirty-three people of one of the worst experiences of their entire lives.
To describe how well you did at a video game.
— An Addendum, On Rape Jokes. (via goddesshyperion)
5:51 pm • 19 December 2013 • 41,427 notes
Men want what they want.
So much of our culture caters to giving men what they want. A high school student invites model Kate Upton to attend his prom, and he’s congratulated for his audacity. A male fan at a Beyoncé concert reaches up to the stage to slap her ass because her ass is there, her ass is magnificent, and he wants to feel it. The science fiction fandom community is once again having a heated discussion, across the Internet, about the ongoing problem of sexual harassment at conventions — countless women are telling all manner of stories about how, without their consent, they are groped, ogled, lured into hotel rooms under false pretenses, physically lifted off the ground, and more.
But men want what they want. We should all lighten up.
It’s hard not to feel humorless as a woman and a feminist, to recognize misogyny in so many forms, some great and some small, and know you’re not imagining things. It’s hard to be told to lighten up because if you lighten up any more, you’re going to float the fuck away. The problem is not that one of these things is happening, it’s that they are all happening, concurrently and constantly.
These are just songs. They are just jokes. They are just movies. It’s just a hug. They’re just breasts. Smile, you’re beautiful. Can’t a man pay you a compliment? In truth, this is all a symptom of a much more virulent cultural sickness — one where women exist to satisfy the whims of men, one where a woman’s worth is consistently diminished or entirely ignored.
— What Men Want, America Delivers - from the inimitable Roxane Gay (via witch-lyfe)
(Source: jessicavalenti, via tkoolhasacrisis)
8:09 pm • 10 December 2013 • 50,032 notes
“Princeton University psychologist Susan Fiske took brain scans of heterosexual men while they looked at sexualised images of women wearing bikinis. She found that the part of their brains that became activated was pre-motor - areas that usually light up when people anticipate using tools. The men were reacting to the images as if the women were objects they were going to act on. Particularly shocking was the discovery that the participants who scored highest on tests of hostile sexism were those most likely to deactivate the part of the brain that considers other people’s intentions (the medial prefrontal cortex) while looking at the pictures. These men were responding to images of the women as if they were non-human.”
The Equality Illusion (via lesilencieux)
(Source: thoughtfulcynic, via flightcub)
2:13 pm • 7 December 2013 • 73,111 notes
all women were bigger and stronger than you
and thought they were smarter
women were the ones who started wars
too many of your friends had been raped by women wielding giant dildos
and no K-Y Jelly
the state trooper
who pulled you over on the New Jersey Turnpike
was a woman
and carried a gun
the ability to menstruate
was the prerequisite for most high-paying jobs
your attractiveness to women depended
on the size of your penis
every time women saw you
they’d hoot and make jerking motions with their hands
women were always making jokes
about how ugly penises are
and how bad sperm tastes
you had to explain what’s wrong with your car
to big sweaty women with greasy hands
who stared at your crotch
in a garage where you are surrounded
by posters of naked men with hard-ons
men’s magazines featured cover photos
of 14-year-old boys
tucked into the front of their jeans
and articles like:
“How to tell if your wife is unfaithful”
“What your doctor won’t tell you about your prostate”
“The truth about impotence”
the doctor who examined your prostate
was a woman
and called you “Honey”
you had to inhale your boss’s stale cigar breath
as she insisted that sleeping with her
was part of the job
you couldn’t get away because
the company dress code required
you wear shoes
designed to keep you from running
And what if
after all that
women still wanted you
to love them.
For the Men Who Still Don’t Get It, written 20 years ago by Carol Diehl.
She wrote a post about the history of this poem that is worth reading.
(Source: waxenneat, via frenchrollfrog)
9:37 am • 30 November 2013 • 231,489 notes
Your first time is NOT supposed to hurt
You are NOT supposed to bleed
If you bleed, that is NOT your hymen being ‘popped’, it is a tear due to lack of sexual arousal and natural lubrication.
This is all a MYTH perpetrated by men so they don’t have to make sure you are comfortable and sufficiently aroused enough before you have sex with them. It is an excuse to disregard and hurt you.
I just really want women to know this.
5:38 pm • 24 October 2013 • 282,982 notes
“By comparing the relative lengths of certain fingers, [Penn State archaeologist Dean] Snow determined that three-quarters of the handprints were female. “There has been a male bias in the literature for a long time,” said Snow… . “People have made a lot of unwarranted assumptions about who made these things, and why.””
— Archeologists find that humanity’s first artists were female. Complement with 100 ideas that changed art and an illustrated celebration of women artists who changed culture. (via explore-blog)
(Source: , via explore-blog)
2:15 pm • 14 October 2013 • 2,903 notes